9 Things to Give Up If You Want to be Happy

I recently read an article by Tony Robbins about “9 Things To Give Up If You Want To Be Happy”.  As I was reading the article, it really hit home.

Every day we speak with co-workers, family and friends, we scroll through Facebook and so much of what we see and hear is negativity.  How can we set ourselves up to succeed in business and life if all we are surrounded by is negativity?  That is easy, stop doing these 9 things.  They are engrained in all of us by society and our culture.  The most successful people in the world struggle with these, but they have learned to work past them:

  1. Complaining
    1. If all we do is complain about what we do or do not have we will never better ourselves.
  2. Limiting beliefs
    1. Believing that you are limited in what you can do causes you to never succeed.  You can do anything you put your mind to.  Also not being open to hearing others perspectives on things will cause you to be stagnant in life and never grow mentally.
  3. Blaming others
    1. It takes 2 to create a situation, it only takes 1 to fix it.  Remember that no matter what situation you are in, you were part of why you are where you are.  If the Beatles blamed Decca recording company for turning them down we would never have songs like Hey Jude, Yesterday or Hello, Goodbye.
  4. Negative self-talk
    1. If you do not believe in yourself how will you ever advance in life and succeed?
  5. Dwelling on the past
    1. You cannot control the past!  All you can do is influence the present and try to improve the future.  If Abraham Lincoln dwelled in the past he never would have become president.  He would have dwelled on loosing 8 elections, failing in business twice, his fiancé dying or his nervous breakdown.
  6. Resistance to change
    1. Change can be scary but if we never changed would we have the life we have right now?  If Steve Jobs resisted change, the iPhone, Apple Watch and iPad would never exist which changed the way we do business every day!
  7. The need to impress others
    1. Why is it that being happy with what you have done is never enough?  We always have to impress others and 1 up the next person.  Whether it is the better, higher paying job, nicer house or car or nice clothes.
  8. The need to always be right
    1. Learn from your failures, if Thomas Edison didn’t fail 1,000 times we wouldn’t have the light bulb.  You are never right the first time, try and try again, you will succeed.  Listen to others and learn from each other.  You don’t create best practices you borrow best practices from others.
  9. The need for other’s approval
    1. Why do you feel you need someone else to approve in what you do or who you are?  Make mistakes, fail and fail again, continue to try until you get it right.  Other’s approval is not important as much as we feel it is.  All that matters is you feel accomplished in what you have done.

 

Bill Gates, Warren Buffett, and Oprah Winfrey All Use the 5-Hour Rule

Bill Gates, Warren Buffett, and Oprah Winfrey All Use the 5-Hour Rule

Top business leaders often spend five hours per week doing deliberate learning.

Not only does our Top Business Leaders do this but our Military has been practicing this for decades!

In the article “Malcolm Gladwell Got Us Wrong,” the researchers behind the 10,000-Hour Rule set the record straight: Different fields require different amounts of deliberate practice in order for someone to become world-class.

If 10,000 hours isn’t an absolute rule that applies across fields, what does it really take to become world class in the world of work?

Over the past year, I’ve explored the personal histories of many widely admired business leaders, including Elon Musk, Oprah Winfrey, Bill Gates, Warren Buffett, and Mark Zuckerberg, in order to understand how they apply the principles of deliberate practice.

What I’ve done does not qualify as an academic study, but it does reveal a surprising pattern.

Many of these leaders, despite being extremely busy, have set aside at least an hour a day (or five hours a week) over their entire career for activities that could be classified as deliberate practice or learning.

I call this phenomenon the five-hour rule.

How the best leaders follow the five-hour rule

For the leaders I tracked, the five-hour rule often fell into three buckets: reading, reflection, and experimentation.

  1. Read

According to an HBR article, “Nike founder Phil Knight so reveres his library that in it you have to take off your shoes and bow.”

Oprah Winfrey credits books with much of her success: “Books were my pass to personal freedom.” She has shared her reading habit with the world via her book club.

These two are not alone. Consider the extreme reading habits of other billionaire entrepreneurs:

  • Mark Cuban reads more than three hours every day.
  • Arthur Blank, co-founder of Home Depot, reads two hours a day.
  • Billionaire entrepreneur David Rubenstein reads six books a week.
  • Dan Gilbert, self-made billionaire and owner of the Cleveland Cavaliers, reads one to two hours a day.
  1. Reflect

Other times, the five-hour rule takes the form of reflection and thinking time.

AOL CEO Tim Armstrong makes his senior team spend four hours per week just thinking. Jack Dorsey is a serial wanderer. LinkedIn CEO Jeff Weiner schedules two hours of thinking time per day. Brian Scudamore, the founder of the $250 million company O2E Brands, spends 10 hours a week just thinking.

When Reid Hoffman needs help thinking through an idea, he calls one of his pals: Peter Thiel, Max Levchin, or Elon Musk. When billionaire Ray Dalio makes a mistake, he logs it into a system that is public to all employees at his company. Then, he schedules time with his team to find the root cause. Billionaire entrepreneur Sara Blakely is a long-time journaler. In one interview, she shared that she has more than 20 notebooks in which she logged the terrible things that happened to her and the gifts that have unfolded as a result.

  1. Experiment

Finally, the five-hour rule takes the form of rapid experimentation.

Throughout his life, Ben Franklin set aside time for experimentation, masterminding with like-minded individuals, and tracking his virtues. Google famously allowed employees to experiment with new projects during 20 percent of their work time. Facebook encourages experimentation through Hack-a-Months.

The biggest example of experimentation might be Thomas Edison’s. Even though he was a genius, Edison approached new inventions with humility. He would identify every possible solution and then systematically test each one of them. According to one of his biographers, “Although he understood the theories of his day, he found them useless in solving unknown problems.”

He took the approach to such an extreme that his competitor, Nikola Tesla, had this to say about the trial-and-error approach: “If [Edison] had a needle to find in a haystack, he would not stop to reason where it was most likely to be. He would proceed at once with the feverish diligence of the bee to examine straw after straw until he found the object of his search.”

The power of the five-hour rule: improvement rate

People who apply the five-hour rule in the world of work have an advantage. The idea of deliberate practice is often confused with just working hard. Also, most professionals focus on productivity and efficiency, not on improvement. As a result, just five hours of deliberate learning a week can set you apart.

Billionaire entrepreneur Marc Andreessen poignantly talked about improvement rate in a recent interview. “I think the archetype/myth of the 22-year-old founder has been blown completely out of proportion … I think skill acquisition, literally the acquisition of skills and how to do things, is just dramatically underrated. People are overvaluing the value of just jumping into the deep end of the pool, because the reality is that people who jump into the deep end of the pool drown. There’s a reason there are so many stories about Mark Zuckerberg. There aren’t that many Mark Zuckerbergs. Most of them are still floating face down in the pool. And so, for most of us, it’s a good idea to get skills.”

Later in the interview he adds, “The really great CEOs, if you spend time with them–you would find this to be true of Mark [Zuckerberg] today or of any of the great CEOs of today or the past–they are really encyclopedic in their knowledge of how to run a company, and it’s very hard to just intuit all of that in your early 20s. The path that makes much more sense for most people is to spend five to 10 years getting skills.”

We should look at the five-hour rule the same way we look at exercise

We need to move beyond the cliché, “Lifelong learning is good,” and think more deeply about the minimum amount of learning the average person should do per day to have a sustainable and successful career.

Just as we have minimum recommended dosages of vitamins and steps per day and of aerobic exercise for leading a healthy life physically, we should be more rigorous about how we as an information society think about the minimum doses of deliberate learning for leading a healthy life economically.

The long-term effects of not learning are just as insidious as the long-term effects of not having a healthy lifestyle. The CEO of AT&T makes this point loud and clear in an interview with The New York Times; he says that those who don’t spend at least five to 10 hours a week learning online “will obsolete themselves with technology.”

— This article was written by Michael Simmons, co-founder of Empact, with Ian Chew and Shizuka Ebata. 

http://www.inc.com/empact/bill-gates-warren-buffett-and-oprah-all-use-the-5-hour-rule.html